{"id":509,"date":"2023-09-08T08:53:33","date_gmt":"2023-09-08T08:53:33","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/?p=509"},"modified":"2023-09-19T08:56:55","modified_gmt":"2023-09-19T08:56:55","slug":"whats-in-the-5","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/whats-in-the-5\/","title":{"rendered":"What\u2019s in the 5?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong><em>Being reminded of what I am doing well<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>&nbsp;<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>is such a power<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>f<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>ul motivation<\/em><\/strong><strong><em>\u2026<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The importance of focusing a client\u2019s energy and attention on \u201cwhat\u2019s working well\u2026\u201d is something I lost sight of momentarily. I have recently been&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/www.coachups.com\/post\/6-tips-to-restart-your-coaching-practice\">reflecting<\/a>&nbsp;on how to get back to coaching after taking a break. The experience of feeling a bit rusty even with just a few weeks of not being in the coaching chair, is a powerful reminder that like any other good habit, coaching too needs to be a regular part of my life.&nbsp;What I did well was to go back to my study material and spend time getting back in touch with the basics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>As I felt my way back into the coaching zone, slowly regaining my foothold and starting to feel confident again, a gap in my practice got illuminated &#8211; enabling a client to see what is already in place and working well. I had lost sight of this really important part of what makes coaching such a powerful way to support growth. But thanks to this&nbsp;video&nbsp;that I watched by Peter J Reding on&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/coachingfederation.org\/credentials-and-standards\/core-competencies\">The ICF Core Competencies<\/a>, Marker No 3 \u2013 Establishes and Maintains Agreements, it\u2019s now firmly back in place and in use. Interestingly this awareness came to me when brushing up on marker 3, but it put me back in touch with Marker 7 \u2013 Evokes Awareness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Series #3 - Episode 3: ICF PCC Marker 3 - Establishes &amp; Maintains Agreements\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/TTywOL88Gtc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>So much of life is about finding problem\/s and then fixing them. It is like when you see an ink blot on a white sheet of paper, the mind is so focussed on that blotch, that we tend to lose sight of all the beautiful white space that surrounds it.&nbsp;<strong>One of the reasons that coaching is such an effective way to support a person to find their most resourceful self, is that it puts them back in touch with \u201cwhat is working well\u201d<\/strong>&nbsp;in their life about the situation they are seeking support to navigate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For instance, if I were being coached and I had chosen to work with the topic of healthy eating habits here is what a conversation would sound like. \u201cOn a scale of 1 to 10, where would you place yourself Nikhil\u201d (a pun on the scale is unintended but makes me smile).<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cI would be at about a 5.\u201d \u201cOkay, what\u2019s in the 5? What are you doing well that makes you give yourself that score?\u201d \u201cHmm\u2026 let me see. Well to start with I am committed to this path and paying attention to healthy eating\u2026 I have also really reduced my sugar intake and am now having just two meals in a day\u201d \u201cok what else\u2026\u201d.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I travel I am more disciplined than I used to be\u2026 and I have reduced my alcohol intake to the occasional beer with a friend\u2026\u201d \u201cOkay anything else in the 5\u201d? \u201cNo that\u2019s about it\u2026 what I really need to focus on is portion control\u2026\u201d \u201cand now that I think more about it, I am not as disciplined about my daily exercise routine anymore, I must get back to my 10,000 step routine and maybe a few days on the tennis court\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Being reminded of what I am doing well is such a powerful motivation to keep doing more of what\u2019s working.<\/strong>&nbsp;Adding new actions or habits is also a part of what coaching catalyses but building confidence and being a mirror to progress is an equally important part of the progress. That is why core competency number 7.6 reminds me as a coach that it is best practice when a coach \u201cNotices what is working to enhance client progress\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are like me and had taken a break from coaching this is me reminding you to unpack the 5. Don\u2019t lose sight of this ever-so-empowering part of what you offer your clients &#8211; help them see what\u2019s&nbsp;working in their life before they jump into action to fix what\u2019s not. Or to put it another way, give your clients a chance to give themselves a high 5.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you are not a coach and happened to find your way to this article, I still hope you will pause to reflect and identify \u201cWhat\u2019s in your 5?\u201d and then pat yourself on the back, celebrate your achievements, and focus on what is working well. Where your attention goes, there your energy flows. Remember to&nbsp;focus some of your energy on&nbsp;something that is working well and it will serve you well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You can connect with Nikhil &#8211; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.linkedin.com\/in\/nikhildey\/\">Click Here<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Being reminded of what I am doing well&nbsp;is such a powerful motivation\u2026 The importance of focusing a client\u2019s energy and attention on \u201cwhat\u2019s working well\u2026\u201d is something I lost sight [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":613,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-509","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/509","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/5"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=509"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/509\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":616,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/509\/revisions\/616"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/613"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=509"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=509"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/icfchennai.com\/blogs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=509"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}